Life After Divorce - When Is A Perfect Time To Start A New Relationship?

Life After Divorce - When Is A Perfect Time To Start A New Relationship?
Published: 16 January 2019 (4205 Views)
The Emotional Turmoil
After a divorce, do not enter any new relationship quickly. You need to give it some time to fully regain yourself before thinking of starting all over again. Getting a divorce is one of the most stressful events to go through in life, second to the death of your spouse. During the months of separation, you usually feel depressed, lonely, not able to perform any work and you may eventually fall ill. This mostly affects women because they are more likely to experience severe psychological and emotional toll. The men usually feel empty, guilty, anxious, depressed and of course angry. When you finally get a divorce, there will be a big rift between you and your spouse. You will not be able to get along with him or her as before and this may affect the behavioral pattern of the kids. You need to fully re-establish yourself before going into a new relationship.
 
How to cope?
A broken relationship can leave you feeling heartbroken, lost and even ill. However, you can adopt certain healthy mechanisms that could help you cope during this period of separation. As reported by a divorce-related company, there are so many things you could do to keep your mind off a divorce and eventually move on. You can simply make the process fast by:

  • Keeping your body in good shape!
Why not try daily workout routines? Go for a nice walk through the woods and listen to good music that would keep you happy. Don’t just walk but walk hard, make it look like you are in a hurry. Pick a route with trees and hills, and make it a regular exercise. You can also try swimming activities, get into a pool and keep yourself cool. Swimming will make you more flexible and you will feel completely free from all these emotional traumas. You can also go for yoga lessons, it helps you become more aware of posture, movement and alignment. Enjoy doing these things every day and you will find yourself feeling as free as a bird but also remember not to over-exercise yourself, it may affect your body structure.

  • Doing the things you really love
Getting over a breakup is quite painful, however, don’t mind your feelings or what people may tell you. If you love meeting up with friends, you could simply call a friend over or go out and have fun with friends. It may be hard to do these things with excitement but you will have to force yourself to enjoy those lovely things you like doing. Always try to keep yourself happy by doing the things you love. Whether you love having a cup of coffee with a friend or going to the gym to work out. If you don’t do these things then you will start thinking about your breakup which may affect you psychologically.

  • Writing your feelings down or talk it out with somebody
Write the way you feel in your journal. Let the feelings flow, express yourself and have a good cry about it. You can make your journal a personal friend whom you can really share all your thoughts or secrets with. During the early stage of your breakup, try to let yourself feel free, let it go, be less judgmental to yourself and you will feel much better. You can also hire a therapist whom you could share your feelings with. He or she should be able to fully understand your emotions and comfort you whenever you feel hurt.

  • Changing to a healthy lifestyle
Living a healthy lifestyle will encourage you to see life from a better perspective and you will finally come to realize yourself. Good health is very valuable, it is like a gift to us and we should always try to treasure it by all means. There are so many ways to live a healthy lifestyle and these are:
  • Staying on a healthy diet (Low vegan-based diet makes healthy)
  • Dropping bad habits
  • Regularly taking exercise
  • Taking a short break from digital gadgets
  • Reading more to stimulate the brain
  • Participating in physical activities
  • Doing new fun things
  • Cutting off from bad relationships or bad friends
  • Having a nice walk when possible

Following these few steps will help you in your daily activities and you will be able to cope with your divorce as time goes on. You shouldn’t worry about things that may upset you, try and keep yourself happy, live a good life and always remember to emotionally let go of those irrelevant things that may distract you from moving on.
 
After It All
After a year of a healthy lifestyle, you will notice some changes in your body. You will be more relaxed than usual and your body will be in good shape. Your health will increasingly improve and you will feel much better than before. Once you continually adapt to these steps, you will notice some changes in your body. During this period, you won’t feel bothered at all, you must have let go of your broken relationship and finally come to realize yourself. Your mind will be active and you will start doing the things you used to do, forgetting about your past and moving on to a new beginning. This is when you can finally get into a new relationship with hopes of making it better than before.


It may take 1-2 years to fully regain yourself. In most cases, moving on from a breakup could be very difficult but it depends on the individual undergoing the separation. It is a gradual process but once you have finally moved on, you will feel free and ready to start a new relationship. You should take time to fully regain yourself,  it could take a period of 1 to 2 years but once you have finally moved on then you can start all over again. Do not worry about your past rather focus more on your new beginning.




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